What a wonderful talk; this came out only a few days ago and it might be one the best talks I’ve seen in a while. Dan Cable, a new name to me, wove together a beautiful, complex, and persuasive story of what it means to “activate our best selves” and how we can do it more often.
I’ve completed the peer surveys for friends in the past and see it as such a valuable tool. Cable also mentioned a test to determine your values and positive character strengths–I highly recommend taking it. The survey is called the VIA and can be found here.
When do you feel like your best self is activated?
I picked this talk randomly while looking for a shorter talk. At first I was not enjoying this, but it quickly took a turn halfway through. I was so intrigued how a young girl who was bullied then became a bully herself. I am sometimes naive to think that empathy is inherent and that we always learn by experience. Hearing this young woman reflect on her experiences really made me pause and think.
Are you surprised she was a bully after being bullied?
I love Isabel Allende; she has lived through such tragedies and has come out with such an inspiring, hopeful attitude about the world we live in. As I see people I love age, I think about what aging means today. We perceive those who are aging as weak and tired, but that is simply not the case. We need to tell ourselves the story that vibrance, passion, and excitement do not dissipate as we age, instead we can learn how to make those qualities grow even more.
Do you agree on Allende’s principals of living passionately? Do you live your life how she does?
I am in 100% agreement with this talk; I had an incredibly interdisciplinary education during college. I took classes ranging from the Philosophy of Truth, Certainty, & Knowledge to courses on the biology of the microbiome. I was a fellow for the IDEAS program, Interdisciplinary Education and Scholarship, while at Emory where I had the chance to discuss the value of interdisciplinary education and thought with peers every week. Working at a tech company now, I see the danger in thinking in only one way–so many STEM fields focus on the binary, one-solution style model, but the world and its answers are diverse, multifaceted, and far from binary.
Do you agree that we overemphasize the value of STEM fields?
I have heard so many peers and friends echo the same bleak outlooks about their jobs and sense of meaning about the work they do. I completely agree and I often fall into the same trap myself. I spin my wheels on one task or frustrating outcome and get caught up in the details. I lose sight of the why, the purpose. Schwartz provides a positive reminder about what it means to work and feel fulfilled.
Do you fall into the same patterns Schwartz describes?
Trust: Logic + Empathy + Authenticity. I agree so much with Frei’s analysis of the difficulty of being different, and how that difference can get in the way of authenticity, and hence trust. If you listen to nothing else, fast forward ten minutes in and listen; her advice to individuals and leaders is pure magic. As a young professional, her advice hits an interesting point. Many of my colleagues play on phones during virtual meetings (we are mostly in our 20s), and I found myself occasionally distracted as well. While some people can fake it, I agree that it indubitably detracts from both professional and personal interactions.
Which area do you wobble in?
I work in tech in the Bay Area so these tech giants are everywhere; Google buses (G-buses) are all over the place and Amazon delivers anything and everything. Galloway goes into the psychology of how these giants have taken over both the individual and the industry. Listen to his interesting, even if extreme, perspective on where these tech giants are leading us:
Do you agree with Galloway? Do you consciously feel manipulated?
I have heard the term gaslighting quite a bit frequently, and it is definitely ringing true in the political world right now. The #MeToo movement has really brought this to the forefront–for so long women have been targeted with gaslighting, but when everyone has the courage to speak up, the power of gaslighting falls to pieces. I hope you enjoy this brave, vivid experience form Ariel Leve about surviving a childhood of chaos, lies, and gaslighting–and how she copes.
Have you ever experienced gaslighting? Do you agree with her coping strategies?
In this time of political divisiveness, this talk is more important than ever. Take five short minutes out of your day to challenge your assumptions and think more deeply about how we treat one another.
Do you agree with Kohn? How would you handle the hate mail she describes?
I have posted talks on this topic in the past, but I don’t think the importance of social interaction can be emphasized enough. Pinker doesn’t just talk about social connectedness, but she also compares social connectedness to the impact of other health factors. I hope you enjoy.
Do you make the time to maintain relationships? Do you think you will be the happy or the grumpy old man? 😉