Ted Talk Friday: How to build (and re-build) trust

Trust: Logic + Empathy + Authenticity. I agree so much with Frei’s analysis of the difficulty of being different, and how that difference can get in the way of authenticity, and hence trust. If you listen to nothing else, fast forward ten minutes in and listen; her advice to individuals and leaders is pure magic. As a young professional, her advice hits an interesting point. Many of my colleagues play on phones during virtual meetings (we are mostly in our 20s), and I found myself occasionally distracted as well. While some people can fake it, I agree that it indubitably detracts from both professional and personal interactions.

 

 

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Which area do you wobble in?

Ted Talk Friday: How Amazon, Apple, Facebook and Google Manipulate Our Emotions

I work in tech in the Bay Area so these tech giants are everywhere; Google buses (G-buses) are all over the place and Amazon delivers anything and everything. Galloway goes into the psychology of how these giants have taken over both the individual and the industry. Listen to his interesting, even if extreme, perspective on where these tech giants are leading us:

 

 

 

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Do you agree with Galloway? Do you consciously feel manipulated?

Ted Talk Friday: How to deal with gaslighting

I have heard the term gaslighting quite a bit frequently, and it is definitely ringing true in the political world right now. The #MeToo movement has really brought this to the forefront–for so long women have been targeted with gaslighting, but when everyone has the courage to speak up, the power of gaslighting falls to pieces. I hope you enjoy this brave, vivid experience form Ariel Leve about surviving a childhood of chaos, lies, and gaslighting–and how she copes.

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Have you ever experienced gaslighting? Do you agree with her coping strategies?

Ted Talk Friday: The secret to living longer may be your social life

I have posted talks on this topic in the past, but I don’t think the importance of social interaction can be emphasized enough. Pinker doesn’t just talk about social connectedness, but she also compares social connectedness to the impact of other health factors. I hope you enjoy.

 

 

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Do you make the time to maintain relationships? Do you think you will be the happy or the grumpy old man? 😉

Ted Talk Friday: My failed mission to find God — and what I found instead

Anjali Kumar does a wonderful job explaining her experience; as someone who feels spiritual but still checks the same “none” box, it is refreshing to hear someone’s journey on the path of finding spiritual community. She sprinkles in plenty of humor for a topic that is often so serious and difficult to discuss. I hope you enjoy!

 

 

 

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Do you consider yourself spiritual? Have you experimented with other religious communities?

Ted Talk Friday: You aren’t at the mercy of your emotions — your brain creates them

I am always attracted to any Ted Talk focused on psychology or emotions. Feldman Barrett breaks down how we feel and what emotions truly are. She truly dives into the double edged sword of our own emotions–they are not hard-wired, and they are malleable. Curious how our brain fills in the blanks to create emotion? Watch the video below to learn more.

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Do you agree? Where do you most often fill in the blanks?

Ted Talk Friday: How can groups make good decisions?

I am a huge fan of Dan Ariely and this real-life study is a powerful example of the power of discussion and collaboration. What scares me about this talk is diversity; in so many seats of power, we lack the diversity we need to reach good, ethical decisions. While we might deliberate as much as necessary, when there aren’t enough diverse voices in the room…deliberation can only do so much.

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Do you struggle with “groupthink”? Do you agree with this advice on how we can improve our decision-making?

Ted Talk Friday: Beautiful new words to describe obscure emotions

I recently learned that a loved one passed away yesterday. She loved words and was a scrabble master until the day she passed away in her late 90s. Such a sharp and thoughtful mind and spirit. This talk on words is something she would certainly enjoy.

I have always enjoyed learning about new words and etymologies. This talk takes a fascinating look at how we view words and how we create meaning. I always think of my favorite word in Spanish, sobremesa, which is the conversation that occurs at the table after dinner. There is no direct translation into a singular word in English and it exemplifies the cultural differences and differences in the way we express ourselves. I hope you enjoy this talk and glimpse into the world of meaning-making with words.

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Do you think we need new words? How do you feel about making new words?

Ted Talk Friday: Are emotions contagious in the workplace?

I saw this talk in person in the Spring of 2016 and fell in love with Brandon Smith‘s work as the “Workplace Therapist.” I found his ideas fascinating before working in an office, but now that I work a regular 9 to 5 job I see his theory in action. I am lucky to work in an office that has contagious emotions, but contagious emotions of almost exclusively the good, productive kind. It is common knowledge that the mood and outlook your friends have rubs off on you, but the same goes for your coworkers. Choose wisely!

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Have you experienced contagious emotions in the workplace? How do you handle negative people?